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What Is Codependency?

What Are The Signs Of A Codependent Person?: Codependency is a complicated and controversial concept in which behaviours that look or are intended to be supportive, in fact, perpetuate or ‘enable’ unhealthy behaviour in another person and in turn start making sacrifices for ‘the enabler’.

Codependency was originally used to describe dynamics between people with substance abuse and addiction issues and their partners/family, but has since become more widely applied to many dynamics, most often romantic but including familial, social and professional.

If you are codependent, you might be invested in your identity as someone who helps others and is invested in people-pleasing. You might experience low self-esteem, poor boundaries, a ‘saviour’ (or martyr) mentality, perfectionism and control issues. It’s easy to think of codependency as a circular (merry-go-round) relationship in which one person needs the other person, who in turn, needs to be needed.

It is thought that codependency is likely rooted in childhood issues such as emotional neglect, often within households where a parent has a mental health condition or a substance abuse issue and the child’s emotions are mostly ignored or punished. Children in these situations learn to associate caretaking with gaining approval or love, and those patterns persist into adult life.

Therapy Modalities That Deal With Codependency

What to expect from therapy for codependency: Ultimately, therapy can help you learn self-compassion, improve your boundaries, support others without sacrificing yourself, and build healthy relationships. This might involve the practice of dealing with overcompensation, being kind to themselves, and forgiving their own mistakes. And ultimately, learning to say ‘no’.

We want you to feel able to discuss any questions or worries with your therapist. This is important in order for you to progress in your therapy.

***If you feel you need some help with getting therapy contact us using the form at the bottom of this page and someone will guide you through the process.***

These are some of the additional therapy issues we deal with that are closely related to codependency.

HQ Therapists & Counsellors Working With Codependency Issues

If you are codependent or think you might be, therapy can help. Both individual and group therapy can be beneficial, as well as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and other person-centred types of therapy modalities. A supportive therapist can help you to identify codependent behaviours and trace the root causes of patterns in your life.

Below is a selection of our current therapists and counsellors who are fully trained to work with clients experiencing codependency symptoms using different types of therapy modalities and a wide range of techniques.

Choosing the right therapist is an important decision for you and it is important that you work with the right practitioner and that both feel comfortable working together.

Frequently Asked Questions

Why Should I Seek Therapy For Codependency?

Many people, new to this type of help, believe that they need to be suffering from “mental illness” or serious “psychological problems”, or be in crisis in order for therapy and counselling to be appropriate for them. This is a common misconception; anyone can benefit from therapy when it comes to helping you deal with your personal feelings and problems, make positive changes in your life, and understand yourself better.

So what is therapy and counselling? If you’re new to this world then the first steps can sometimes be the most difficult. Therapy can be a very effective treatment for a whole range of personal problems covering areas from physical and emotional problems, different types of behavioural disorders, through to human sexuality issues and a host of wellbeing and complementary therapy techniques.

Any problem you have that is causing you concern, anxiety or distress is a valid and appropriate reason to reach out and find a therapist and talk to them about it. Far from something to be ashamed of, acknowledging your vulnerability and asking for help is a sign of maturity and strength.

If you feel that you have a desire and are committed to making changes in your life in order to overcome your current problems and achieve more long-term satisfaction, psychological wellbeing and personal fulfilment, then you are ready to seek therapy. We are here to help you work through a wide range of therapy issues that might be troubling you.

Will Information About Me Be Safe & Secure?

It is quite normal to be hesitant when it comes to sharing private and intimate information about yourself with a stranger. You may fear that you will receive judgment from your therapist, or that your therapist will share your details with others.

HQ Therapy Rooms takes your privacy and confidentiality very seriously. Our therapists are required to keep everything said in therapy sessions between you, just like your doctor is required to keep your records private.

For therapy to be effective, there must be unconditional trust built between you and your therapist, and this relies on a shared understanding of confidentiality. It applies to the outside world as well: it is standard practice for therapists not to acknowledge their clients if they run into them outside of the therapy rooms in order to help protect their client’s confidentiality. Read our full privacy policy for more information.

Can I Contact You For Advice About Getting Therapy?

Talking about your thoughts and feelings with a supportive therapist can often make you feel better and help you face your problems. It feels good to be listened to and to know that someone cares about you and wants to help. It is important that you find a therapist with whom you feel comfortable and can build a trusting relationship to help you make positive changes in your life.

But how do you know what type of therapy is right for you? Taking the first steps in finding the right therapist can be the biggest hurdle for newcomers, so we have made it easy. Simply get in touch with us using the form below or give us a call at 0203 997 9229 and one of our fully qualified referral therapists can work with you to make sure you connect with the right practitioner and receive the correct therapy and counselling services you require.

However, if you feel you are ready to start therapy straight away then click HERE to book an initial therapy assessment with a fully qualified therapist, or if you are struggling financially click HERE to book an initial therapy assessment with one of our Low-Cost therapists.

Our practitioners deal with a wide range of therapy issues using different types of therapy modalities tailored to the types of clients we work with. We also cater for people who are beset with financial difficulties, offering them services ranging from low-cost therapy and reduced-rate therapy to working with seasoned, qualified and accredited talking therapists.